The Men (Part I)

The men (part 1)

HOW TO UNDERSTAND US...

Whoever writes is openly a womanist, and by this I never mean to say that she is a feminist, nothing further from that disgusting pro-decadence movement of women (I think that feminist groups are made up of people who really hate women). So, what I'm really trying to say is that I openly support the free, dreamy, enterprising and empowered woman, the one who doesn't emotionally depend on a man and doesn't succumb to the crotch of any slug to feel loved, the woman who fights tirelessly doesn't seeking to be equal to man, that would be the equivalent of a Lion, King of the African savannas, seeking to be equal to the domestic kitten. No, I believe in the woman who knows she is worthy enough not to be equal to a man, but that she recognizes herself better than him and even so,

With that said, you might think that this blog is about women. Well no, this blog will talk about men and I wanted to clarify my position first so that with what I just said in mind, you know that at no time will I take advantage of my position as a man to speak well of the masculine gender to the detriment of the woman. With this, I want you to be clear that I will try to speak only with the truth (in my way of seeing things) and that if that truth is uncomfortable for you, do not think that a misogynistic macho is writing it, but that it is being written by someone who really he admires the woman and that if he writes it it will be with a certain air of: disgust, sadness and even pain.

Talking about men is a slightly more complicated topic than talking about women, because even if you don't believe it, and I think it's because women are much more inspirational material than men, there is a lot of literature on women that is achieved, however, very little is written about the man. This does not mean that not enough has been written about men, I just say that compared to women, much less has been written, making it more difficult to establish accepted paradigms in relation to them.

I have discovered that one of the causes of insecurities in women is not knowing precisely what a man thinks. And, it is that, let's recount, the woman's knowledge about the man is limited to knowing that he only thinks of one thing; sex, it must be for this reason that the best-selling material in the world is precisely the female body, breasts, vaginas and feminine curves are three products that abound in Web pages, social networks and all audiovisual material that could be sold or display on the planet.

However, women ask themselves many questions about us men, a very frequent one, for example, is if we really fall in love, it seems that the woman doubts the man's ability to fall in love; and the answer will surprise many people, the truth is this: only needy men fall in love, or I'm going to put it another way, only when we suffer a kind of weakening do we fall under the influence of falling in love. I know that many are disappointed at this moment, maybe they were expecting a resounding: yes, we fell in love; but not. And the reason is still pure biology, we don't need to fall in love, we just want to mate, just that, nature didn't program us to feel emotions that make it easier for us to give our senses and bodies to someone.

The woman needs to give her body to feel attracted to that man, backed by that being who projects security and gives her a certain sense of belonging, that is why the woman needs to feel hers, to feel that that man will take care of her for being a property of the. It is a woman's need to feel cared for. However, man does not need any of that. We can mate with a woman without liking it, we can and we do, have sex with a woman without falling in love (which is more difficult for women) men can go to a bar a thousand times and ask the same prostitute and will never develop feelings towards that woman, in the case of women it is more difficult, there are many documented cases of women who request sexual services and end up developing emotional feelings and reactions towards the man who provides the service; it's in their genetics, it's in his being and they can't help it.

The man does not need any of that, therefore falling in love in us does not happen as in the case of women. Now, the above does not imply that we do not fall in love, at some point we do, but not in the way that women do and above all, not with the purpose that ladies do. For a man to fall in love, he has to take some steps, which I detail below:

Steps :

Step 1: feel really attracted to that woman, but a lot, so much so that you feel little in front of her, that you feel that you need her to be complete. This only happens when the woman, in addition to having certain natural charms, also has social skills that are above average, that is, a man is attracted to a woman who makes him feel desired by others, and who also skillfully complements in their interpersonal relationships. By this, I mean three things: a man does not fall in love with a woman just because she is pretty, he does not fall in love with a woman that he has not looked for, and he does not fall in love with a woman who has less social skills than he does.

Corollary : women, a man will never fall in love with a female who sought him out, who showed him from afar that she is willing to give him everything without making the slightest effort, never. A woman who gives sex easily is never going to be a reason for falling in love, she already gave the bargaining chip she had in her favor (let's go back to the principle that the man is only looking for sex and if you already gave it to him, what are you waiting for now?) Which brings us to the second step.

Step 2:We fall in love with a woman who is difficult for us but who doesn't play hard to get. This step is key, we have already established that we do not fall in love with easy women; do not be confused, we like those easy women, we appreciate their collaboration with sex, but we absolutely do not want them to fall in love. We fall in love with a woman who is approachable, who speaks to us with a smile, who makes us feel that yes, that we see attractive and more importantly, that others see attractive (yes, the physical does matter to us; although I must clarify that we settle for a pretty face without exaggeration; women who are too pretty terrify us, a voluptuous body without exaggeration, normal and average tastes are what nature offers: medium-sized breasts, well-proportioned body whether fat or thin and we feel a certain liking for a woman's waist and pelvic area.) With the above, I mean that those exaggerations of breasts, buttocks and disproportionate things, we like to see them perhaps, but believe me the average man he does not want them to fall in love with and much less are they a reason for falling in love. The woman should only be nice but impenetrable and believe me that the term "impenetrable" is very well used and justified in this sentence.

Another thing is that for a man it is inconceivable (at least for the intelligent one) that a super operated woman, who goes out on the street showing all that, only wants to share it with a man. I repeat, that is the conviction of a man, maybe everyone here screams and says NOOO, one does it to feel good about oneself and it may even be true; there is no scientific evidence to suggest otherwise. But believe me, a man does not see it that way and will never see it, so an "exploited" woman is definitely not to fall in love with. 

Step 3:we like a woman who at least appears not to belong to everyone. I mean, we don't fall in love with a woman who has a great track record and I know they all do, on average a woman has many more lovers than a man before settling down with a partner. Although you may not believe it, the statistics say that on average a woman will have had between 9 and 11 sexual partners before reaching sexual maturity, or what is the same, before establishing herself with a partner; while the average man only has 6 sexual partners before settling down. And yes, I know you have heard of men who say they have had 400 partners, but believe me the man tells stories that never happened while the woman never tells things that did happen. This is due in part to the fact that the woman knows this reality very well (from step 3),

So, we fall in love with women who appear innocent, not with those women who believe that talking about how well they do it in bed will have better luck, maybe they do, but only for sexual partners, remember that a war cry that the woman knows and uses many times is: “the woman goes to bed with whoever she wants, the man with whom she can” and until then, that is, until going to bed is true; but, we are talking about making a man fall in love and that, my dear friend who is reading me, is something that costs much more than just spreading your legs.

Step 4: make us feel needed, this step is key, since a man, and we said that at the beginning, does not feel needed naturally. However, there is a time in our lives that as human beings we go through moments of depression, yes, we also get depressed, we also feel ugly sometimes, we feel undervalued and we have complexes with the size of our member, only we don't. we are proclaiming from the rooftops and we are better than women when it comes to hiding what we feel or what happens to us. This step, I call it the “appropriate moment” factor, if we meet a woman who physically attracts us, who seems difficult to conquer and who also seems to us the sweetest and most innocent being in this world, the cocktail is ready to fall in love. .

summarizing: to fall in love four things must happen, meet a woman who really attracts us, that is, who attracts us to something beyond her sex and that woman costs us to attract her attention and finally that she convinces us that she is innocent, even if out of a bar; we would like to think that she is the most innocent prostitute in that place (obviously I exaggerate with this example). And fourth, that all this is combined with the right moment. It is that while a woman is always thinking about finding Prince Charming on every corner, we are always thinking about getting sex, unless we feel weakened by a feeling of emotional dissatisfaction. That's why at first I said that only the needy fall in love, A man doesn't really feel the need to get married unless he feels weak and needs a person to fill that void or that weakness in some way. In that case, the woman who meets the appropriate characteristics of her will be that bastion of power that she needs to continue advancing, continue with her projects, with her life and to strengthen her power status.

Every man who marries at a young age only reveals great emotional weaknesses, luckily for you women, childhood traumas tend to leave indelible marks on men, that is why many sooner or later will succumb to the need to fall in love and maybe get married, so don't despair, it's not that they're ugly or unlucky, they just haven't found that man in need of a woman at that time. Due to the above, it is that you see and this is a proven fact, that a man enters the more power he has, the less needy he will be and he will tend to prolong his bachelorhood, notorious are the cases of important men of business, industry, etc. who remain single . So the next time you see a man you find attractive single, don't think it's because he's a bad man.

With the above, you can draw two important conclusions that will be very useful: the most difficult man to fall in love with is not the most handsome, nor the most millionaire, nor the one with the most to choose from, but the most difficult man to fall in love with is one who does not have emotional traumas and who does not have unsatisfied needs. Another conclusion is that: the next time he sees a possible mate, before thinking about his strengths, think about his weaknesses, it will help you a lot to achieve his purpose.

Now, do not be disappointed, it is good that it is a necessity that forces a man to fall in love. This means that while a woman falls in love for a feeling of love (which is basically the same, unsatisfied needs expressed in another way) the man falls in love out of necessity. That is, you will be a person that man needs to feel complete and let's face it, women like to feel that their man needs them. Thus, the equation is complete. You achieve your purpose of getting married and being happy with a man in love with you who makes you feel safe, protected and cared for and the man will get by his side a being that he needs to feel better about himself and to continue moving forward with his life feeling supported. and supported.

Married women, are you that support and backing for your husband? Answer that question honestly because if it is not, you are not fulfilling the only purpose you have in that man's life, be careful, that is the beginning of weaknesses. No, it's not the shapely neighbor smiling at you, it may be you.

TO BE CONTINUE…