The men (part II)

The men (part 2)

In this second part I will try to be a little more expeditious and answer in a shorter way other questions that women normally ask about us men. An example of such questions is the following:

How intense is our infatuation?

I get asked this question very often, we men are not emotional like women, therefore when we fall in love, we do it a lot, that is, when a man is really in love with a woman, it can be said that he will be practically all his life. life. Unlike the woman who, due to her emotional temperament (carousel type), today she can be madly in love and a sudden action or fact can make the same man indifferent to her tomorrow, with the reasons that she herself deems reasonable. One man does not have that faculty, when a man falls in love, he does it convinced (obviously I am talking about a real infatuation, I am not talking about those in which a man pretends to be in love until he obtains a sexual favor from the female- a strategy that we use because we know that the woman seeks emotional stability and hardly agrees to mate if we do not convince her that we are investing emotions in her, a fact emblematic is that the woman, due to her high capacity for perception, knows when a man is not really in love and just wants sex, but decides to fall on purpose hoping that sex will convince him that he is really in love; we already know the results of these experiments). But, when the man eventually falls in love, he really invests feelings, when we really love a woman we will always love her, she will have a place in our hearts, the man loves his memories (unlike the woman who prefers to bury them.

So, answering the question as succinctly as possible, YES, we fall in love with intensity and true love, becoming capable of accepting and doing things that only a woman or other man in love would understand. When we meet that person who fills us, complements us, with whom we fall in love, we do it madly. Sadly, when a man does not fall in love with the right woman, he often suffers a lot and the loss of that person, eventually through separation, will hurt as much as the physical loss (death) of a loved one. I don't know if women love like this, the empirical evidence doesn't make that clear to me, but a man can love with a very high intensity.

Next question:

How much do we like sex?

A lot, a man likes sex, we like to enjoy carnal relationships with great intensity and if this occurs with the woman we are in love with, a woman can be sure that her partner enjoys sex with her a lot. As long as (it has a small clause) the woman faithfully complies with satisfying her partner in that sense. We like passion, fire, a woman who is a lady on the street but a stray in bed. One of the main causes of infidelity is that the fire, the desire in women, is extinguished shortly after marriage; while the desire in the man is still alive (later we will talk about the reasons that cause the desire to end in the woman). It is at that moment when the demons of desire appear and the temptations that come to play an overwhelming role in the marriage sphere. Hence, keeping the sexual game and desire alive is vital for life as a couple and ends up being the woman's absolute responsibility; beyond the fact that the woman will always blame the man for having the responsibility in the cooling of passion. Also, from there arises the success of lovers, who, due to the forbidden nature of the relationship and other emotional and exciting factors, tend to maintain sexual passion for much longer than in a marriage.

Is a well-cared-for man going to be unfaithful?

Yes, unfortunately there are no barriers that prevent this, by nature the man wants to mate and will seek to do so with whoever gives him the opportunity. However, recent studies show that the more intelligent a man is, the less likely he is to cheat, while men with lower IQs tend to cheat. The foregoing implies that infidelity is practically a brutality that man commits, since he, he often risks his family, children, work, emotional stability for furtive encounters with lovers; There are many cases of men who lose everything for hanging out with women other than their wives. However, an intelligent man will think about all this (that is, the consequences) before committing an act of infidelity, not for love as it may happen in the case of a woman,

Any man with a minimum of intelligence knows that an affair never stays in the sheets, no matter how many movies and stories fantasize that it does; The vast majority of the time the love affairs will transcend and this is because the intelligent man knows that the woman (the lover) is not satisfied with having him under her sheets, for her it is important to show him, exhibit him as a trophy, for this reason will always be asking for more and more and demanding more commitments from the man and if we add to that the lively and unsatisfied sexual desire of the married man, the unwillingness of the wife and the much of the lover. A triad arises that will hardly happen without consequences. So, believe it or not, one way to reduce the risk of your husband cheating on you is to choose a mate who is smart.

Do we think about being unfaithful?

This is something that bothers women a lot, but I have to tell you that at least at some point a man thinks about being unfaithful, this is in the case of the good man, the bad man, he thinks about it several times a day and the little intelligent does it several times a day. So if her husband only thinks about being unfaithful at some point, she considers herself lucky. Most men are unfaithful without even thinking about it, in fact, many see the opportunity to be unfaithful as something that they simply cannot pass up. Cases have been seen of men who consider it a lack of masculinity not to take advantage of offered sex. 

Now, there is also a clause, even when a man thinks of being unfaithful, it is very difficult for him to think of leaving his wife for a lover or for an affair (this being fulfilled in all men: good, bad and not very intelligent). It has to be a very specific case where the mistress is 100% superior to the wife in every conceivable aspect and the wife has also given reasons or DUE to unusual situations for a man to even think of leaving his wife, your partner for a lover, you can desire the physical, desire a night, an adventure but never change your wife. In the case of the woman it is different, the woman if she is able to leave her husband for a foreign relationship, it is more when a woman agrees to have an extra-marital relationship it is because she has already finished her feelings towards her husband; namely,

It is for this reason that a known and accepted fact within the scientific community is that men do not forgive physical infidelity, because men associate: that if the woman slept with another it is because she likes him or is in love or loves to that other and not to him (which is almost always true, a woman truly in love and who loves her husband is not unfaithful). 

However, the woman forgives the man in physical infidelities because she knows that it could have been just a temptation of the moment, but that does not mean that the man has stopped loving her, she will be very upset, but she will end up forgiving the infidelity; Disguising it with any excuse: that she doesn't want to be alone, because of the children (if any), any excuse, however the reason is that she knows that that man still loves her, and if she still loves him, she will certainly forgive him and that's it. . The man, on the other hand, will feel that this woman no longer loves him and he will feel very humiliated and it is very, very difficult for a man to forgive an infidelity and it is not a matter of machismo, it is a matter that he will feel (and that will make him feel the woman with ample samples), who is no longer loved.

Proof of the above is that when a man is unfaithful and is discovered, he will do the impossible, what he never did to win back the love of that woman and heal that wound, hoping for forgiveness and redemption. However, when it is the woman who is unfaithful and is discovered, she does not have the same reaction, her response will be frivolous, excusing and will not show signs of repentance, although she will show a lot of anger and resentment, because she really feels that that man (her partner) forced her to do something that perhaps she did not seriously think about as often (as a man would) but her actions made her stop loving him; let us remember that for a woman to stop loving is a painful process of disappointment and mourning, so she will feel pain and will blame that man, convinced that he is responsible for her infidelity, but she will not show regret at any time or do anything to return with him, what's more, to be able and have the opportunity she will go with her lover to a far away place, so as not to feel the social pressure or the disrepute that for a woman means everything it. As you can see, if we think of being unfaithful and sometimes we are.

Are we attracted to pretty women or ugly women?

This is a question that perhaps women would ask differently, women always want to know if men really give a lot of importance to the physique to fall in love with a female, hence a dream of every female is to be pretty, to feel good about herself. himself, loved and desired also by men and envied by women. Well, two things: the physique does matter to us but we are terrified of very pretty women, proof of this is that studies have confirmed that beautiful women are the loneliest. This, due to the fact that not many men dare to court her, few men are capable of approaching an exaggeratedly pretty woman, which makes the expression "the luck of the ugly the pretty one wishes her" valid for the unattractive or average girls. they like it more, because it is simpler, we feel more confident to talk to them, (and this is so, both for handsome and not handsome guys) while falling for a pretty girl is not so easy. Also, pretty women end up with not very pretty men because for them the physique is not that important. Because they feel beautiful and know that they can have any man, so they don't need to be with the most handsome guy to reaffirm their beauty (although that doesn't mean that they don't like the handsome guy, just that they don't feel the need to be with the handsome guy). with that, opening up to accept also the not so attractive of the group). 

However, the unattractive woman does need to reaffirm herself and show that she can conquer the man she wants by conquering the most handsome man (she sees this as a way to feel pretty and reaffirm her beauty; therefore, this ends up being the result of a lack of self-esteem), in this way the pretty woman attracts the unattractive and repels the most handsome and the unattractive or with low self-esteem attract the most handsome towards them repelling the less attractive (it is not very common to see couples formed by people : both beautiful or both unattractive, there is always a counterweight; at least in the real world, let's leave the showbiz out). Creating a power relationship in which handsome boys feel comfortable with average girls and beautiful girls feel comfortable with average boys.

The foregoing creates a balance of power that is interesting, and although it is not a norm, it is a way that explains why we see very beautiful women alone and unattractive or average women with many suitors. Men are not attracted to a woman who is very beautiful for many reasons, we think that the competition is fierce, they make us feel insecure of them, feel jealous and many times we prefer average women (in addition to those who manage to overcome prejudice and get involved in conquering the most beautiful of the party, It usually happens but they are about individuals who break the stereotypes marked by society and do not see each other very often), often such an individual relies on other strengths that their competitors are unaware of, which can be: money,

For whatever reasons, the important thing here is that the next time you are in a place and no one approaches you, before you get depressed, think that perhaps your unattainable airs are achieving their purpose very well and you are unnecessarily placing yourself above the desired level of accessibility. Since, making yourself unattainable will not give you the opportunity to get better prospects, only the most daring and daring, which is not synonymous with being better, but only with feeling less needed and at this point you must have learned that a man like that, does not fall in love Also, it may be the case that they are unintelligent subjects, in which case you also already know the results.

Luck…